Perhaps you are reluctant for change? Setting goals may require you to try
something new. This often takes additional energy and preparation that simply doing what you're already doing.
Fear of success? Maybe there is concern about the responsibilities
you may be obligated to if you achieve a significant goal.
Time constraints? Instead of focusing on a specific goal, you
may be saying "yes" to many things that do not fit your true purpose.
Fear of failure? Do you think you will be criticized if you do
not reach your goals? (even by your own
inner voice?) Those who set high goals and fail to reach them often accomplish
much more than those who never set goals.
What if you set a goal to save $5,000 in the next 12 months? Even if you only save $3,500 over the next
year, you still have accomplished more than what you might have without a goal.
Passivity? A belief that whatever will happen, will
happen. While there will always be
things that we cannot control in our lives, there is evidence that when we set
our mind on a goal and speak our goal out loud, that we begin to notice
circumstances and people around us cooperating with us to attain that goal.
If you find yourself making any of
these excuses to avoid goal setting, take some time to reflect on the thoughts that support
them. Then explore whether those
thoughts are really true, or how likely they are to happen. Find ways to challenge negative thinking that
hinders you from setting positive goals for your healing or pursuing your
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