Definition of Stress
Definition of stress: a state of mental tension and worry caused by life problems. It can cause intense feelings of worry or anxiety.
Most often we think of stress being caused by
- our work / boss
- too many commitments
- finances/ unpaid bills
- the demands of others
There is another cause of stress that is rarely recognized...
As humans, we struggle to adapt to change. Change, even good change,
causes stress. We sometimes experience grief for what we are leaving
behind to move forward in life.
However, when we do not fully
process or adapt to change and loss, it can result in feelings of loss,
which contribute to the definition of stress when these feelings are not
When we have negative experiences, they
sometimes stick around longer in our consciousness than we would like.
These negative experiences begin to affect
- our level of confidence
- our expectations for the future
- our hope
- our enjoyment of life
the results of unresolved grief can weigh us down, affecting our
closest relationships, our work, parenting and other realms of life.
many people are carrying this stress in the form of anxiety, anger,
depression, physical ailments (headaches, stomach aches, and other
When we experience loss, it can cause us to be less trusting or
hopeful of a positive outcome in the future. Our hearts become cautious
and less carefree. Anxiety is often the cover for a bunch of
unresolved emotions that threaten to come to the surface and escape
their containment. Instead of feeling fear, guilt, resentment,
insecure, inadequate, etc, when those feelings are tapped into, what we
experience is anxiety - or an awareness inside that our peace has
I think of anxiety as a cap or lid over a lot of unexpressed emotions. When those emotions are triggered by life experiences, the lid tends to quiver and we feel anxious. Anxiety and stress can be a signal that we have some work to do in acknowledging and processing other emotions.
When you feel stressed or anxious, talk to yourself in a soothing, compassionate non-judgmental way to help yourself calm down.