Shock or Disbelief
can be the first reaction to news that a loved one has passed. Many
people report numbness where they don’t feel anything in the first few
moments. This experience can be surprising to many individuals because
may not immediately sense the devastated feelings they would expect to
feel with such news.
Denial doesn't so much occur in
grieving process when the mourner “forgets” that their loved one has
passed away.Denial is related to how one expresses their emotions
surrounding grief. For example, a person who continually says, "I'm
fine," after a significant loss is likely denying his or her feelings.
It may also be true that the bereaved person does not know how to share
their feelings with those closest to them.
is not a universal emotion during the grief process. While it is not
unusual to experience anger and many other feelings after a significant
loss, it is not required. Some people become angry at themselves or the
person who left them or simply at the situation they are left to face
alone. Grief recovery coaching can provide a safe place to explore the anger and
help uncover the source of the anger.
refers to attempts to make a deal, often with God, to change the
situation. Elizabeth Kübler-Ross noted bargaining in her observations of
individuals dying from a terminal illness. Bargaining may not be so
frequent when a loved one has died, but is likely present in other
losses such as divorce, break up, job loss, home loss or other
transition, where there is some hope the situation could be changed by
an all-powerful God.
Guilt can occur when the
bereaved have regrets about things they did or said before the loved one
died or left them. There is a wish to turn back the clock and do some
things differently. This is another area where grief coaching can be
especially helpful to give the griever a space to share their memories
and regrets in a supportive environment.
is often used to describe the profound sadness that is a natural human
reaction to grief and loss. The symptoms of grief are very similar to
those of clinical depression.
Acceptance and Hope.
In the last stage of the 7 stages of grief one arrives at the belief
that although life will never be the same again after the loss, there is
hope that life will go on.
The 7 stages of grief is a
myth because not everyone follows this prescribed order when dealing with grief. Many people grieve without experiencing some of these stages. Follow the link to learn more about finding meaning and hope to
restore happiness through grief recovery coaching.